Polite Lies has ratings and 46 reviews. Daniel said: I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of people i. Mori–who was 12 when she lost her mother to suicide–sees that death as a rejection of the polite lie of marital harmony and stability. Polite Lies. On being a Woman Caught Between Cultures. Kyoko Mori “Mori’s observations about lies and their consequences build to a powerful effect.

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I, too, am a person that left her country and does not feel the polute to come back, and that I understand. Buddhist Thought and Applied Psychological Research. Want to Read Currently Reading Read.

Polite Lies: On Being a Woman Caught Between Cultures

Apr 25, Catherine rated it really liked it. I did not enjoy all the whining and blaming that the author does about her life. How to write a great review Do Say what you liked best and least Describe the author’s style Explain the rating you gave Don’t Use rude and profane language Include any personal information Mention spoilers or the book’s price Recap the plot.

Meanwhile, his male privilege leads him to cheat on his wife, cheat on his girlfriend, neglect his children and beat his daughter.

Polite Lies

For a culture that values self-importance and material possessions so much it seems strange. You can remove the unavailable item s now or we’ll automatically remove it at Checkout.

It’s interesting for me because I get the views of a Japanese woman about what it’s like to live polote both places. Practice Random Acts of Kindness. Memoirs are an inherently selfish, self-reflective act, but some authors write memoirs because they feel they have something of value to share, something needs to be heard.


I have never read anything like this before. The world sees little more than a winner, a benign petty king or diamyo, a leader bearing terrible burdens. I have seen mentioned in some reviews that she seems quite negative about her own country, but to be completely honest: How liss write a great review.

POLITE LIES by Kyoko Mori | Kirkus Reviews

Maybe if I had picked up and started during another time of year, I might have finished it, because I think it was interesting to read about a person who is struggling with trying to determine the sadness in her life and subscribes aspects of culture gaps and communication to cultural differences versus to the personal failings of, let say, her father for example … It is well written.

Sep 21, Patrick McCoy rated it liked it Shelves: This book was a very interesting read and I learned a lot. Hemingway did it with people in his life. While the book does more than a good job of exposing the fascinating and often negative undercurrents of Japanese society, I get the feeling Mori was so choked by her upbringing she has gone to the opposite extreme.

This collection of essays includes a lot of somber reflection not just about living between two cultures but also about processing family pain and grief. Even if the reader doesn’t necessarily agree with each point, Mori expresses herself well enough to make the collection well worth the read.

This book is a lot about home and origins, or at least it was to me. Of course, she argues, there are polite lies–religious rituals, for example, or the platitudes we utter in the face of adversity–that we need, that offer us comfort and may actually be preferable to harsh truths.


This book, on the other hand, is an extended rant about the author’s take on what’s wrong with Japan and Japanese culture. Though she doesn’t go into the fact that it’s completely contradictory that American’s should want to follow a philosophy that tries to distance itself from the tangible world and embrace the next. You submitted the following rating and review.

Polite lies can be our defense against barbarity. May the Angels Be With You. Polite lies can be our defense against I loved Kyoko Mori’s commitment to honesty, even when that meant blackening the eyes of kyokl in her family.

These 12 personal essays Flying Tigers Over Cambodia. I am obviously less familiar with Japanese culture, but there were several instances of Mori universalizing dynamics that may be unique to her family; many of the Japanese reviewers I’ve read tend to share this critique.

The author goes into great detail about her struggle with trying to moir to terms with her roots and the pull of home, but her yearning to find what feels like home to her. This is a kyiko with an intelligent, open mind and a searching, questioning polote. The Shared Wisdom of Mothers and Daughters. Maybe she didn’t want to reveal everything about her marriage and why it dissolved, but I thought her excuse for why she divorced her husband was pretty lame.